Why Logical Reasoning is so Important to a Loving Relationship

by chelseafamularo

Almost all of us have heard this verse at some point in our lives:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

There’s a reason this piece of wisdom is so extremely popular in wedding vows and framed embroideries the world over. It paints a perfect picture of a truly loving relationship.

A loving relationship is one where love comes before all else, where both partners are more concerned with doing right by each other, than they are with feeding their own pride, selfishness, or fear.

“it is not proud”

“it is not self-seeking”

“Love…rejoices with the truth.”

The time when this often becomes most important in relationships is during arguments. When we’re hurt or angry and all of our defense mechanisms flare up. Pride becomes inflamed, insecurities come to the fore, and selfishness is at it’s peak . The question strays from “What is wrong and how do we make it right?” to “How can I get what I want?”

This is the point where logical reasoning is absolutely vital, because it’s the only straight path to truth. It leaves no room in the equation for bias. The reasoning is either sound or it’s not, it’s valid or it’s not. And so you’ve either found the truth, or not. It’s irrelevant what one would like to believe or, more often than not, what one wouldn’t like to believe. It’s only relevant what actually is true.

In this way, with truth as the main objective, progress can be made. Arguments can actually strengthen relationships, instead of stunting their growth.